Common Interests

  • Posted on July 4, 2015 at 10:00 am

Kelly Ann asks…

How would you approach a friend or family member if you thought they might share such interests as ours?

In reading comments made by other fans of this site, I’m struck at how often we seem relieved that there is a place to go to explore our fantasies. I know that until I found Nifty and Lesbian Lolita, I felt a bit of an outsider with some of my feelings and fantasies. But now that so many have responded, it is a relief to know I’m not!

I’m wondering how many of us would love to have someone in our life to share our common interests with… and how would you approach a friend or family member if you thought they might share such interests as ours?

For those lucky enough to have someone to share these feelings, how did you approach them? Has anyone ever thought they could share such interests only to find that the person they thought they could confide in really was not interested in such things? How did that turn out?

 

53 Comments on Common Interests

  1. ThylaneLover says:

    I’ve been lucky enough to have been with two women in my life that I was able to share my feelings with.

    I honestly don’t recall how I came out to the first one, but after doing so she was accepting, though she didn’t share my feelings. She would indulge me through role-playing though.

    The second one I told actually brought it up first. She asked me one night if “daddy” needed some loving. When I asked if she liked that fantasy, she said yes and said she liked being around 12 years old. Then she asked me what age of girls I liked. I told her I liked girls who were around her daughter’s ages, who were 5 and 6. She said she knew there was something dark about me and proceeded to tell me she had lied about liking to be 12 because she thought if she had been honest I would think she was sick. She told me she actually liked pretending to be 8 or 9, and that she was also attracted to young girls. I told her I hadn’t been completely honest with her either for the same reason, and admitted I was attracted to girls even younger than her daughters. When all was said and done, we had pretty much the same feelings. Her daughters became a regular part of our fantasies in bed, as well as her being their age and me being her “daddy”.

    It’s great when you can open up to someone like that and not feel like you are living a lie.

  2. Elizabeth says:

    I don’t think I would ever approach a friend or family member about this. When it comes to this issue you just don’t know how people will react. This is the type of thing that if the wrong person knows you have one iota of interest in it, it can completely ruin your life in the most unpredictable of ways. That said I have shared it with certain friends before, and you’d be surprised how many women there are out there with our interests.

  3. emma says:

    A girlfriend of mine jokingly brought up the subject, saying that with my shaved pussy and tiny titties I looked like a little girl. We brought this into our fantasies, playing mother and daughter games. We both have preferences for 6 to 8 yr olds and love using stories on here, leslita, and nifty to give us some ideas.

  4. lynn says:

    It is very hard to not have anyone in real life, to talk to about this. For example, I’ve been such a fan of the reality show: Kate plus 8, for obvious reasons. Does anyone here goes into fantasy land watching certain shows? I doubt Kate has the same interests as us, but OMG the possibilities:)

    • Janet says:

      God Lynn, i thought i was the only one who enjoyed Kate+8, so erotic at times. i laughed reading your post and then net flixed it til I was exhausted

  5. Hannah says:

    I’ve found a few people to share things with in real life. Due to my crush/obsession with my own mom I tend to really go for older women. I have a couple of things that help me in that regards: 1. I am bold as fuck 2. I look considerably younger than my actual age of 19. I have had more than one mom, after fooling around a time or two, ask if I want to have sex in their absent daughters room and in some cases (the best ones:) ) have led to me calling them mommy and them calling me by their daughters names. They often act ashamed afterwards, but usually text me for another date!<3

  6. Rita says:

    As I have posted previously on a different thread, I became ‘involved’ with my niece when she was just 17. She was, and still is, a very petite slim girl, who could easily have passed for 12 years old. I look back at the first time we were intimate and remember how young looking yet eager she was. I had always been close with her as she grew up and I guess I now admit to having secret maybe subconscious thoughts about her.

    Since then I found myself taking notice more and more of very young girls. Even this past weekend down at our shore house the neighbors had a big gathering and there were quite a few cute young girls I kept spying on.

    And as has been discussed prior, I do find myself chatting & role playing more and more with other like minded Moms and younger girls. A great way to live out these fantasies in a safe and private place.

  7. Lynn says:

    I would like to offer my email, I have 2 sons and no daughters but I’d love to share with anyone who is comfortable and willing. I’m very new to this and the thought of being able to share with a real person with same interest is giving me the chills. Feel free to drop me a line [email protected]

  8. Lou says:

    I’ve been reading the stories here for a while but have finally found the courage to talk to you all and to admit how I feel .. I would love to be able to find someone to share my feelings with but am truly not sure I’d be able to open up xx

  9. Home says:

    I would love to open up and share my thoughts face to face with someone, however I don’t think that could ever be possible. It’s sad but it is what it is. For now it will just mull in my mind and allow me to be safe in my own thoughts.

  10. PoppaBear says:

    Those of you who are reading here and were members on storyfriendsboard may remember one of the active members there who called herself LovingMom.
    I was in touch with her for a few weeks but then she disappeared, just as sfb came to an end.
    Do any of you know her? Is she OK? If you do pass on my best wishes.

  11. Jon says:

    It is impossible to tell people how I really feel. Thank god for websites like this one where like-minded people can share with each other.

  12. DeepThoughts says:

    A friend to whom I could completely and unabashedly share this side of me with would truly be worth their weight in gold. As it is, I have been fortunate to have made some ‘close’ online friends who I feel comfortable sharing this interest with, and it has been cathartic. I’m very excited to be here now after finding the link on LesLita (I have been reading erotica there and on other sites for years. Cheers! ..and please don’t be a stranger.

  13. DeepThoughts says:

    I see that my email addy isn’t part of my title so, deepthoughts101@yahoo…

  14. Debbie says:

    It’s so wonderful to read all of your comments and thoughts and know I’m not alone.

  15. oliviasmom says:

    Oh Hannah, if I could find someone to role play like that, I could die happy.

  16. Aliciamom says:

    Olivia, me too πŸ™‚ I’m at [email protected] if you’d like to chat.

  17. oliviasmom says:

    I sent you an email Alicia πŸ™‚

  18. singlemale says:

    It’s hard to express oneself nowadays or even think about saying anything that they like or are turned on by I mean it’s almost like the book 1984 πŸ™

  19. Gramps says:

    I have always wished I could share my fantasies involving young girls with my wife and that she would enjoy them as well. Other men I’ve confided in seem predisposed to want to dominate but that is not my fantasy. I love the closeness and softness of a mom and young daughter relationship. I would love to be able to admit to her that I’d love her to be with a 5 or 6 yo. I could be a party to just watching and being made to feel trusted enough to be included in any small way. It will always be my go-to masturbation fantasy. If anyone could include a gentle gramps please let me know. thickboner504u@yahoo….

  20. Kelly Ann says:

    Since I started this post I’ve checked in from time to time and I’m excited to see how many responses there have been. It’s so wonderful to have a forum where we can talk about our feelings and fantasies. I find it odd and sad for those of us who can’t share such feelings with those close to us, that we can talk so freely about our common interests to strangers in chat rooms and places like this. I’m surprised at the number of you who do have someone in your life you can share such things with, and as a member of the have-nots, I’d like to say how happy we are for you!

    Gramps, I’m sure you didn’t mean to, but it sounded almost like you were trying to invite yourself into a real life story. I’m sure you were trying to say that you’d like to invite anyone who shares your fantasy to communicate with you. Rita, Hannah, and Lynn, I especially enjoyed your comments. And as for the rest of you, thank you again for contributing. I enjoy reading the comments on these threads almost, lol, as much as I enjoy the stories themselves

  21. Gramps says:

    Yes Kelly Ann I thought it went without saying that we dealt in fantasy here…not real life experiences.

  22. Jack says:

    It’s really been the greatest aspect of my fantasies to have a loving woman with whom I can totally open up to and be accepted for what I really am. A pedophile. Though a huge driver is knowing I’m totally into something that everyone else says is absolutely wrong.

  23. Dabbler says:

    When my partner and I (me male/she female) were first together we used to print out stories from places like this and ASSTR and read them together sometimes masterbate each other. We both got very hot to say the least. We never really talked about those fantasies outside of that, though mine did continue. That was some years ago now and we grew out of it..or moved on. Loved it though!

  24. Naomi says:

    To me, all of this is just a “sick idea” in the back of my head. It’s hot to read, really fun to think about when work is slow, etc. I’m never going to act on any of this unless some crazy insane things happen that somehow change all of social and legal rules we have. Some things just need to stay fantasies unless your situation is that rare one in hundred million kinda deal.

  25. Joe says:

    I too have had a few times where I could express my deepest desires to special people but they were always just people online. I would very much love to have someone in my life that I could share these fantasies and feelings with. Someone to talk to, someone to share with and someone to be open with. It would make me feel much more normal.

    I am sure this might sound crazy, but if anyone is interested in chatting or sharing feel free to contact me.

    [email protected]

  26. Wingnut says:

    Its nice to meet like-minded people here. Especially so kind and thoughtful about their interests.
    If anyone fancies a chat anytime I’m on
    [email protected]
    Thanks

  27. Jack says:

    Wingnut, I’ve sent you a message but you likely need to check your spam folder or add my email to your whitelist.

  28. Rahl_is_Torn says:

    I got interested in this in my early teens. I feel very alone because I have no one to talk to. I have been married for going on 12 years now. I have four children, two of each. I have never been interested in males, and I would never look at my girls in this way. In fact, I would exterminate with extreme prejudice anyone I caught ogling my children. I was molested by my babysitter when I was 5, taught my kindergarten girlfriend how to make out shortly after. That wasn’t the only time, but that isn’t for here. I am torn between my addiction/obsession and hating myself for it. There are things I would love to do and yet those same things would almost certainly lead to my suicide. I have been keeping this bottled up inside for close to 20 years now. I can’t talk to a therapist about it because that would lose me my family thanks to duty to warn. It feels like I am going to explode sometimes and I don’t know what to do. I am ashamed of what I like but can never seem to truly be able to break free from it nor can I fully embrace it either. When I see what I like and gratify myself I feel like a dirty piece of garbage and yet I feel as right as rain. Plus I live in constant fear that I will be locked away and, more importantly lose my family. I am sorry for the long, and probably off topic, post but I found this forum and felt I had finally found people I can talk to. I still feel trapped but not as confined as before.

  29. Poppabear or PoppaClyde2 says:

    If you feel better for expressing your concerns I am sure there is no one here who will object, and you may find several people who empathise with your situation.
    I hope 2016 is a much more peaceful year for you than those that are behind you.

  30. Hello, Rahl, and thank you for joining us at Juicy Secrets. I hope you feel welcome here.

    I certainly can relate to the feelings you expressed. It’s not easy to live with the kind of obsession we have. For years I struggled against it, tried to deny it or banish it somehow, but I can’t — because it’s me. This is who I am. Once I finally recognized that desires are different from actions, then I was able to begin accepting myself as I am, without shame, and loving myself.

    For what it’s worth, I was abused as a child too, not by a girl, but a boy. He was around 13 or 14, I think, and I was about 5. I hated it, felt sick and ashamed, and never told anyone. I’m not sure how much that incident has to do with my sexual orientation or my unusual desires, maybe a lot, maybe a little, I don’t know. But anyway, after I discovered the online community of others like myself and realized that I’m not alone, I’ve felt a whole lot better. I hope you will have the same experience.

  31. Jack says:

    Rahl, truely there are more of us who share your feelings of desire and shame. The shame comes from what we have been taught by society of “morality” and or parents. For most of us our desires come from love. I believe love is a gift from god. Delicate and anguished is this balance we try to maintain between this love we have been given for young girls and the need to not act out our complete love for them as demanded by society thru word of law.

    The best you can do is learn to accept what you are and what you desire is not the demon or scourge of the world you had been lead to believe. World society demands we don’t act on our desires, therefore we don’t. But no one can tell us who we can’t love.

    Find peace, be at peace and stay at peace forevermore.

  32. Evan says:

    I haven’t read all the comments due to a lack of time right now, but I would love some more like-minded friends to talk to via email. I’m a guy/dad/uncle with fantasies of wishing I was a girl and playing with my nieces. [email protected] – would love more girls/moms to chat with about this.

  33. Katiebee says:

    My girlfriend was molested by her uncle when she was 6. Now she has issues with physical and emotional intimacy. This causes problems in our relationship. I have difficulty getting through to her at times because she can become distant.

  34. Evan says:

    Katiebee – That’s too bad; traumas like that are really hard to heal from. For me, like everything else here – it’s only fantasy, I would never molest anyone.

  35. Evan says:

    oh, was also wondering if anyone here wanted to connect on FetLife? email me if so.

  36. JetBoy says:

    I see a lot of incredibly cute little girls in the context of my sales job, which does involve quite a lot of hanging out with families. And while I often have explicitly sexual thoughts about these girls, it’s never in the context of making love to them myself. Rather, my fantasies are of them being pleasured by their mothers or sisters… or even by lesbian acquaintances of mine.

    (Perhaps you are wondering: do I ever picture these luscious nymphs in the arms and beds of friends I’ve made through writing sex stories — maybe even my lovely partners here at Juicy Secrets? As to that, I must plead the Fifth.) πŸ˜‰

  37. Mom Lynne says:

    Hello

    I’ve posted before on here but never got a response. I love this place where I can dive into my desires and fantasies. I never thought in my wildest thoughts that such a place existed.
    I am a mom and if other moms on here would like to chat I’m here
    [email protected]

    • Donna says:

      Hi Lynne,,,,I saw your post and maybe we can talk sometime,,,,,,Donna

    • ken says:

      Hi Lynne, you probably haven’t gotten a reply yet because the email address you provide looks suspicious. πŸ™‚ I’ve never seen an address that ended with email.com before. πŸ™‚ I noticed your first post and would have tried to contact you but that address made me think twice about it πŸ˜€ But then again, I am not a mother nor female and that seems to be your preferred chatting partner. :)But if you’re interested in just chatting with a person with common interests regardless of sex, feel free to email me at [email protected] πŸ˜‰

  38. sue says:

    hi not a mom, but would enjoy a chat. Sue.

  39. Mom lynne says:

    Hello

    My email is from the mail.com site. I’ve had emails there for work and like their service is all. Obviously the last name isn’t mine πŸ˜‰

    Feel free to email

  40. Saapho69 says:

    Hi everyone, ive been very busy as of late and will be until april 15. havent been able to post but I am here.

    Mom lynne ill send u an email, im a mom too. even though my children are grown. I would be happy to chat with u.

    Rahl I understand how u feel, im sure we all do since we all share the same obsession. When I was 14 a tragedy occurred to me so bad its caused my entire life to be one big nightmare. Its why im a sex addict, why im a lesbian, well why I am many things in my life. All I can tell u is u r not alone. If u allow this community to embrace u. You will find some peace here and an outlet for ur fantasies.

    TTFN xoxoxox

  41. Sara says:

    I’ve read all the comments several times just to be sure! and yes, I share very similar experiences! As a little girl my mom caught me mastubating in my bed one night and she made me feel so bad about that act! That to this day I feel dirty and guilty we I do it, actually I struggle to achieve a proper climax! I get releave and real enjoyment when reading and visualizing other mothers and daughters that bond and enjoy each other. I find this group and others like it therapeutic and thank all authors for there lovely art!!
    Sara

  42. Girl Lover says:

    I am not a mom either, but I would love to chat about your saphic fantasies. There is something so primal and sensual about this topic I understand why it gets everyone tingly. I have been to some of the DW sites and don’t enjoy the people there. There is a refreshing honesty about everyone here ( as much as you can be given the subject matter and social/legal taboos)…

    Girl Lover.

  43. kraM says:

    You think it might be illegal to even talk about it someday? Or write about it?

  44. Melissa says:

    As a mom I really wish I had someone I could openly talk to but sadly I don’t. As others have said it is to see others like me here. Would like to hear from other moms as well [email protected]

  45. Melissa says:

    As a mom it is nice to see that there are others with my desires. Sadly I have no one else I can talk about it with offline either and not sure I could bring it up. Wish it was easier to talk to others on here.

    • summit Kris says:

      It was not until the mid to late 1800s that someone decided to have a problem with it. Think on that.

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